Our family was at a Chick-fil-a children’s play area recently, and while our younger children played, I found myself noticing another mother trying in vain to get her two children to come down out of the play structure. She tried calling nicely, then she tried shouting meanly, then she tried threatening (“No ice cream for you!”), then she sat down in frustration and waited for the children to decide to come down on their own. It was a dramatic scene for all around, as the children ignored their mother’s repeated pleas for obedience. Read More
“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.”
This quote is a complete lie, of course. Words can hurt. Words can injure. Words leave wounds that run horribly deep and can last a lifetime. I’ve forgotten much of the day-to-day aspects of my childhood, but those times I was hurt by someone’s words haunt me still. Read More
Have you ever picked up a parenting book, peered at the table of contents, then flipped to the consequences part first? I know I have! Why do we turn to those chapters first?
Because we’re all desperate for that parenting “quick fix”. Read More
Why do we teach and discipline our children? Is it because childishness is annoying? Is it because they make us look bad at Walmart when they’re begging for candy and throwing a tantrum? 🙂 Is it to make our own lives easier or more convenient? Or is there a greater purpose? Read More
We’ve all faced breakdowns in communication in our home before, and I’m sure we would all agree that good communication is a key to success in most situations. Today, we’re not going to talk about parent/child communication (although it’s necessary!); instead, we’re going to focus on parental communication.
Do you and your spouse communicate regularly about your children? I’m not talking about those these-kids-are-driving-me-nuts-come-home-NOW texts back and forth, either. 🙂 Read More
“Be brave, Little Bear.” My mom used to say this to me when I was young and afraid. Once, I was afraid to talk to a new neighbor, and she whispered those words to me and sent me off to make a friend. I walked across the yard, and the closer I got to the neighbors house, the more I could hear my mom’s words, ringing in my head over and over.
Let’s be honest here: Being a parent takes courage. It takes a realization that no matter how hard you try, you won’t please everyone. Somebody, somewhere, will parent differently than you. Read More
It’s always amazed me that if a woman wants to be a doctor, a teacher, a musician, or any other career, many long, dedicated years of schooling plus an internship are usually required. It is necessary that one have credentials before beginning their full-time career. And yet, one of the most important jobs in the whole world, is the responsibility of raising the next generation—and there is no required, or hardly even available education for new parents. In America, it seems as if motherhood especially is something you do after you’ve finished doing everything you wanted to do for yourself FIRST. Read More
The first thing I do when I wake up every morning is put on my glasses. Why? Because I’m near-sighted, and without my glasses, my world is cloudy and unclear, and I would be stumbling my way through the day. I once thought a giant spider in my shower was a blob of hair because I wasn’t wearing my glasses! Thankfully, I leaned in for a closer look and then exited the shower quite…abruptly. 🙂
When we’re seeking to parent our children with the same grace God has bountifully bestowed upon our lives, it helps to view our children through His eyes. To put on His glasses and open our eyes to the clarity of His viewpoint.
He says children are a blessing. Read More
Oh my goodness—I am so excited about this series! Being a godly, patient, pro-active, grace-filled Christian parent is hard work.
If you’re anything like me, every so often I need a bump in my parenting skills. I need encouragement to keep on keeping on this journey. I need a refresher course. A reminder of the purpose of grace parenting. A nudge to bring things back into a God-honoring focus. It’s easy to get so caught up in the day-to-day living of life that we lose sight of our purpose! We become irritable, impatient, and ill-tempered, and our sweet children bear the brunt of our frustrations. Read More